“They say it’s alright
Say it’s alright
It’s alright, have a good time
Cause it’s alright, whoa it’s alright”
– Curtis Mayfield
When is the last time you really had a good time with your children, significant other, friends, or with yourself? As Mayfield sings in his song “It’s Alright”, it is alright to let go and just have a good time.
As I watch my son, Lucas, grow, I feel reminded of this idea of just having fun and enjoying my son through this precious infant phase. Though there are sleepless nights and many considerations when taking care of an infant, it is alright to relax into it and have a good time versus being fearful or too preoccupied to notice this magical phase of my son’s life. All of these grunts and baby dinosaur noises (as I call them) and sweet facial expressions and body language when he puts his hands on my shoulders and hugs me after nursing, I want to soak it all in.
How often do we just have a good time with our partners? There are many considerations and things to do each day of our lives but the miracle is that people are wonderful and amazing in THIS moment…
When I begin to forget how important it is to stay present, I remind myself to take a few breaths and to ground myself in the present moment, as this is really the way to enjoy life.
I love the lyrics in this oldie but goodie by Mayfield: “When you wake up early in the morning, Feeling sad like so many of us do, Hold a little soul, And make life your goal
And surely something’s gotta come to you”.
Here is an exercise you can do, if you find yourself challenged in this at times, as I am:
1) Once you recognize you could be enjoying this very moment even more, acknowledge yourself for even recognizing you are straying from a chance to just have a good time and know that everything is alright.
2) Take three deep breaths, releasing each breath gently before taking the next.
3) Ask yourself what it is about this moment you want to enjoy or in what way you want to just have a good time…maybe it is you want to enjoy the hike you are on, or your child’s smile, or you want to just have a good time talking to your partner in the moment, versus feeling the need to address something that may cause tension. This curiosity about what you really want and are seeking should bring you back to the present moment.
4) Once you are back in the moment, let go of any intrusive thoughts that come up (examples: Who needs to do the dishes? Did my child brush her teeth? I am scared because it is not certain what tomorrow holds for me, my relationship, my family…)
5) Then, just savor the moment, “hold a little soul” and know that you can take this savoring and living “nice and slow” as Curtis Mayfield advises…
Also, there is a really exciting series I am facilitating with colleagues coming up in February and March in Asheville:
Join in the conversation and fun while learning how to nourish your mind, body, spirit and live your life to the fullest!
A team of health and wellness practitioners will be presenting a 4-week series of workshops aimed to:
* Provide tools and strategies for living a healthier life.
* Help you set health and wellness goals for 2016 and beyond.
* Provide support for physical, mental, and emotional health for setting and achieving your personal goals.
* Introduce techniques for sustaining your goals through behavior and habit changes.
Your coaches during this series will be…
– Dr. Sean Simonds
– Dr. Jenn Cournoyer
– Ali Galliot
– Shirley Michl
– Trish & Gary Hughes
– Caroline Wyrosdick-Webb
Series dates are 2/23. 3/1, 3/8, and 3/15 @ 6:30-8:00PM
Healthy Snacks and water will be provided.
Cost is $100 for the full series or $35 per session.
Please make advance payment via VENMO.com to TrishHughes@AHealthyYou
Visit our FB page at Spring Into A Healthy You!