It’s Time to Have a Good Time (AKA: Releasing anxiety)… + upcoming February events in Asheville!

 

photo by Caroline Wyrosdick-Webb

“They say it’s alright
Say it’s alright
It’s alright, have a good time
Cause it’s alright, whoa it’s alright”

– Curtis Mayfield

When is the last time you really had a good time with your children, significant other, friends, or with yourself? As Mayfield sings in his song “It’s Alright”, it is alright to let go and just have a good time.

As I watch my son, Lucas, grow, I feel reminded of this idea of just having fun and enjoying my son through this precious infant phase. Though there are sleepless nights and many considerations when taking care of an infant, it is alright to relax into it and have a good time versus being fearful or too preoccupied to notice this magical phase of my son’s life. All of these grunts and baby dinosaur noises (as I call them) and sweet facial expressions and body language when he puts his hands on my shoulders and hugs me after nursing, I want to soak it all in.

How often do we just have a good time with our partners? There are many considerations and things to do each day of our lives but the miracle is that people are wonderful and amazing in THIS moment…

When I begin to forget how important it is to stay present, I remind myself to take a few breaths and to ground myself in the present moment, as this is really the way to enjoy life.

I love the lyrics in this oldie but goodie by Mayfield: “When you wake up early in the morning, Feeling sad like so many of us do, Hold a little soul, And make life your goal
And surely something’s gotta come to you”.

Here is an exercise you can do, if you find yourself challenged in this at times, as I am:

1) Once you recognize you could be enjoying this very moment even more, acknowledge yourself for even recognizing you are straying from a chance to just have a good time and know that everything is alright.

2) Take three deep breaths, releasing each breath gently before taking the next.

3) Ask yourself what it is about this moment you want to enjoy or in what way you want to just have a good time…maybe it is you want to enjoy the hike you are on, or your child’s smile, or you want to just have a good time talking to your partner in the moment, versus feeling the need to address something that may cause tension. This curiosity about what you really want and are seeking should bring you back to the present moment.

4) Once you are back in the moment, let go of any intrusive thoughts that come up (examples: Who needs to do the dishes? Did my child brush her teeth? I am scared because it is not certain what tomorrow holds for me, my relationship, my family…)

5) Then, just savor the moment, “hold a little soul” and know that you can take this savoring and living “nice and slow” as Curtis Mayfield advises…

Also, there is a really exciting series I am facilitating with colleagues coming up in February and March in Asheville:

Join in the conversation and fun while learning how to nourish your mind, body, spirit and live your life to the fullest!
A team of health and wellness practitioners will be presenting a 4-week series of workshops aimed to:
* Provide tools and strategies for living a healthier life.
* Help you set health and wellness goals for 2016 and beyond.
* Provide support for physical, mental, and emotional health for setting and achieving your personal goals.
* Introduce techniques for sustaining your goals through behavior and habit changes.

Your coaches during this series will be…
– Dr. Sean Simonds
– Dr. Jenn Cournoyer
– Ali Galliot
– Shirley Michl
– Trish & Gary Hughes
– Caroline Wyrosdick-Webb

Series dates are 2/23. 3/1, 3/8, and 3/15 @ 6:30-8:00PM
Healthy Snacks and water will be provided.

Cost is $100 for the full series or $35 per session.
Please make advance payment via VENMO.com to TrishHughes@AHealthyYou

Visit our FB page at Spring Into A Healthy You!

With Love,

Caroline

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What Are YOU Here For? Plus Upcoming Event Series, Starting 2/23!

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“We are here – we’re all here for all of us / We’re all here for all of us / That’s why we are here.” -Alicia Keys

Pause and let that sink in … “We’re all here for all of us”. What an idea. We are here for ourselves and others. We are here to offer gifts of attention and love and presence to others. We are here for connection. We are not alone.

How do you want to grow? How will your life expand this year?

This is a blog posting that has been published here already but I want to share this feeling again!

I attended a service this morning at Jubilee! Community Church in Asheville and was struck by my son Lucas’s reaction to someone who came to speak to us. He is at that stage where he is smiling intentionally and sweetly and cooing to communicate socially. At the beginning of the service a man came and introduced himself to us and those sitting near us. He was a much older man, had the look of someone who had experienced pain and joy in his long life, and I believe it was his first visit to Jubilee! (it was mine too). He talked with me for a bit and then, he came up to us again at the end of the service and spoke to Lucas and held Lucas’s hand. Lucas made direct eye contact with this man for several minutes and smiled so sweetly. It was a completely unfiltered expression, full of genuine joy and curiosity about another person. The man said how much Lucas had made his day, and even his week by smiling and acknowledging him. I know people can use that expression (someone “made their day”) carelessly but in this instance, I could sense this man meant it from the depths of his being. He connected with a human baby, whose enthusiasm was infectious.

May we all be so quick to offer a smile (like a baby would), a helping hand, or a conversation to these others who we are journeying with during the time our souls have been blessed to have here on this earth. What a chance, what an opportunity.

We can learn a lot from the type of expressions and eye contact babies offer…there is usually no pain or fear there. Only Love.

I also want to share different ways you can work with me. I would love to offer you a complimentary 60 minute relationship breakthrough strategy session, please email me to claim yours: create@carolinewyrosdick.com

Also, there is a really exciting series I am facilitating with colleagues coming up in February and March in Asheville:

Join in the conversation and fun while learning how to nourish your mind, body, spirit and live your life to the fullest!
A team of health and wellness practitioners will be presenting a 4-week series of workshops aimed to:
* Provide tools and strategies for living a healthier life.
* Help you set health and wellness goals for 2016 and beyond.
* Provide support for physical, mental, and emotional health for setting and achieving your personal goals.
* Introduce techniques for sustaining your goals through behavior and habit changes.

Your coaches during this series will be…
– Dr. Sean Simonds
– Dr. Jenn Cournoyer
– Ali Galliot
– Shirley Michl
– Trish & Gary Hughes
– Caroline Wyrosdick-Webb

Series dates are 2/23. 3/1, 3/8, and 3/15 @ 6:30-8:00PM
Healthy Snacks and water will be provided.

Cost is $100 for the full series or $35 per session
Please make advance payment via VENMO.com to Trish Hughes@AHealthyYou
For more information or to register contact:
Trish at 828-400-0923 or Caroline at 617-595-6935

As always, I love to hear from you and wish you much joy and peace.

With Love,

Caroline

 

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Is it Always Obvious? What Will You Celebrate This Year?

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I believe that there is always something to celebrate. Sometimes it is something obvious, like the birth of my son who will be 1 on Tuesday! He is so full of joy and life! I never knew before what depths of love motherhood would bring me to! It is an amazing journey.

As I look back on this year, I also feel called to celebrate and honor other parts of my life, regardless of how they have turned out. Life sometimes looks messy but can we celebrate and embrace the mess too? Sometimes it can be hard to celebrate and see value in painful or confusing moments.

What do you think?

Let me know!

With Love,

Caroline

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What are you walking towards and how does it feel? {AKA: Creating Your Vision}

Photo by Caroline Wyrosdick-Webb

Photo by Caroline Wyrosdick-Webb

“When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.” – Audre Lorde 

As we near the dawn of another year, are you thinking about your vision for 2016? Do you see a new relationship, a wedding, a career shift, a baby? Or, maybe an opportunity to create a deeper relationship with your partner, or to travel and experience some type of adventure that you hope you can realize…

Close your eyes and envision yourself in a vast field of blue cornflowers. In this field, your eyes remain open and you look towards the opposite end of the field from where you stand. What are you looking at? Begin walking towards what you see. Notice if the image in your mind shifts as you walk towards it. Towards what do you walk? Now, open your eyes and record first what you felt (joy, fear, happiness, sadness, trepidation?), and then, record what you saw (colors, shapes, images).

This type of visioning exercise can be helpful while deciding how you want your life to look in 2016. One of the most important factors in this process is to also note on a daily basis what you are walking towards. In other words…this looks like asking yourself these types of questions: What thoughts do you chase? What thoughts do you let go of? What people are your attracting? What in your environment causes you to expand and what causes you to contract? All of these pieces fit together and become the overarching theme of our lives and essentially become what we are walking towards.

I would love to hear more about what you hope to create in 2016! Contact me at create@carolinewyrosdick.com to claim your complimentary Breakthrough Strategy Session.

With Love,

Caroline

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Take this One Step to Feel Better Now!!

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“Love requires action. It’s not a thing we try to get for ourselves, but instead is an action we express to others through sharing and serving.”

-Joyce Meyer

As you have probably heard, it is important that we love ourselves before we can truly show a genuine love to others.

One way we can express compassion inwardly and shine a loving light on our most wounded parts is to meet ourselves with healthy self-talk. Instead of agreeing with our gremlin (inner critic) when it hits play on the tape recorder in our heads that keeps us small and says we aren’t good enough, we can imagine shining a bright, healing light on that tape recorder that pauses it, and even recreates the message it sends out. It will now play a message of self-love, compassion, and expansive joy.

What would your message of love to yourself sound like right now?

This is what mine is today (the fresh tune sounds light and lovely, yet strong, and feels like healing rain): ☔️

I love you and am here for you. You are safe. You can relax and experience the joy that expands in each moment, if you give it permission to do so. Have faith. You are enough. We are all divine beings presented with many opportunities to step into our greatness.

What do you hear when you pause the tape recorder of YOUR inner critic? Do the new words and melody feel like freedom💕? Tell me what does this freedom feel like?

Happy Holidays! 🌲

With Love,

Caroline

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Are you running from Tigers? Follow these steps to Tame YOUR TIGERS (Whether Paper or Real)…

“The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process, is its own reward.” –Amelia Earhart

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Today was an especially trying day, one during which it felt like everything was broken, spilling, messy, and frankly, difficult to the point of my wanting to hide under the covers while the rain fell steadily outside. My website had a glitch as well, which is why my blog posting is a day late! Of course, with caring for my business and my child, hiding is not something I am always able to do when I need or desire to – and this exposure and inability to hide provides growth for us. I have to find, and even create, pockets of time for myself, which can be challenging. I know we have all been in this boat, and it can be hard! The season of my life right now is that my business and my child are my priorities. 

The rest of this blog piece is one I released last Fall but because it resonated with some many people, based on feedback I received, I am sharing it here again (slightly modified as my son was born in 2015).

As seasons change, I love to see the landscape change. Often I become quiet and internal, observing transformation in my life and in the lives of those around me. As I prepared for the birth of my son last January, I read a book a dear friend lent me. It is called “Birthing from Within”. In this book, author Pam England (Certified Nurse Midwife), talks of “tracking and taming” your “birth tigers”. Tigers are an excellent metaphor for one’s fears about the birth process, whether it is the physical pain of it or the sacred passage to parenthood.

I love cats, small and large, and I find that tigers are strong, soulful, mysterious, and intimidating for me. Regal and lovely, they seem to bring up apprehension, respect, awe, and sometimes, a primal fear, in humans.

While reading this helpful book, it occurred to me that we all have “relationship tigers” as well. We are at our most vulnerable in our intimate relationships, and these relationships can bring up our most primal fears. Pam England notes “Even paper tigers can bite”. Very real, scary situations or those perceived “tigers” can harm us and impact our feelings about our relationships. Our body reacts similarly to both an actualized fear or a “paper” fear by releasing adrenaline and wanting to fight or to flee.

It is a challenge to explore the tigers that seem to pursue us. 

I know in my own marriage, I have tamed some of my relationship tigers but a large tiger, with an especially luring coat of fur and a firm and sharp grip, is my fear of the unknown in my relationship. To fully trust and have faith in my relationship, I have to tame my fear of letting go of my own grip on expectations and insistence on specific outcomes that I have judged as best for whatever reason. Though I trust my husband completely and know of his love for me, I sometimes worry about what the future holds…marriage is tough and lovely and painful. And, parenthood will bring new adventures and challenges for us to navigate. Once I have struggled with this tiger, and she is sleeping peacefully on the floor next to me versus keeping me up at night, I know it is possible for fear to still be there but I am seeing it differently, with a new strength and perspective.

What are your greatest fears about your intimate relationship? How can we track these tigers/fears? One way to do this is to keep a Tiger Love Journal. If you can take 10 minutes each day to write down something in your relationship that has brought up fear for you (that day or in general), this is a start. Write it down without overthinking it, because it is likely to be a true gut feeling if you write down your impulse thought. In this way, you are tracking your relationship tigers.

After taking 10 minutes each day to journal about your fears, spend one hour a week on a day when you feel energetic and ready, and really face down your fears and ask yourself questions like: Is this really a True concern I can do something about, or is it my imagination that has created this tiger? Where did this fear about my relationship come from? When was this tiger born? If this fear is a pattern presenting itself during the whole week, ask: At what point in time did this pattern emerge? What was I doing or what environment was I in when this feeling came up?

All relationship tigers contain some type of truth for us or else the concern would not have come up. It is important to distinguish between what we perceive as true with our blinders on and what is actually True because it is an essential, universal Truth, like that we are all worthy beings, who are all doing the best that we can based on our own individual understanding of the Universe.

After practicing this for one month with the 10 minutes of journaling daily and the once a week noting of questions and patterns, it is then time to ask yourself how to either tame the tigers you identified, or how to develop a plan to escape the tiger’s teeth. This process will look differently for all of us. It may mean having an honest conversation with your partner, creating a healthier space for your own creativity or expression, working on how you communicate with your partner, or planning a new adventure of some kind. Once you develop a plan, carry it out (or begin to take baby steps) within two days!

Share with me about those tigers you are taming, releasing, living peacefully with, or even escaping in your own relationship.

With Love,

Caroline

 

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Does giving to others sometime hurt? Here’s help!

Art by Kenneth E Webb

Art by Kenneth E Webb

“A kind gesture can reach a wound that only compassion can heal.” – Steve Maraboli

This is a blog piece that I posted around this time last year, at the start of the holiday season. I want to share it again.

This subject of giving is one that receives a lot of attention, not just during the holiday season, but also throughout the year. To ourselves and our loved ones and others too, we give and sometimes receive gifts, food, love, clothing, shelter, energy, and time.

A great friend of mine recently said she feels that it is true that some people are takers while others are givers. Somehow, throughout life, we grow to be more one or the other. She has made this observation through her own work with individuals who are often sad, concerned or drained because they feel that they give a lot more to others (perhaps giving materially, emotionally or spiritually) than they receive, and they feel unworthy somehow. Often, if someone over gives and realizes it eventually, this person may go to the opposite extreme of not giving anymore because it has become a painful experience for them; this act of giving but perceiving you are never receiving. Or, another painful experience I sometimes here about in my coaching work is a feeling that you are unacknowledged and unrecognized for your giving, which can also cause someone to contract into a state of detached non giving, where they used to expand more freely, as it is an integral part of their nature to give their time and energy. A man dear to my heart has told me that this is something he has experienced in extreme measure during years of his life. Feeling an imbalance in giving and receiving (whether real or perceived) can be heartbreaking and creates confusion and distrust in our relationships.

As all of this reflects, many of us DO have an imbalance: take more than give OR give more than take. Some of us have achieved a healthy balance. In these cases, we are able to unconditionally offer our love and support in many forms to others while also ensuring that we are in healthy relationships ourselves in which we, too, are nurtured, loved, and appropriately given to. I believe to achieve this balance continued attention to a healthy self-esteem and compassion for both self and others are necessary.

A compounding factor in achieving a healthy balance is that we are not always sure what this would look like for us. I often ponder how a healthy balance of giving and receiving shows up for me. There are some times I do feel I am reaching out to and offering energy and love in ways that are not reciprocated in forms I recognize as loving by the specific people I am offering my heart to in those moments. It is important that I mention that I do not recognize the reciprocation as loving because this means that a huge part of this is how I perceive the situation. My perception may be a healthy warning that I need to reevaluate boundaries in a relationship or, it can reflect my own contraction and drop into a lower, less creative energetic state.

Throughout life, I have been blessed beyond measure by friends, family, and most wonderfully and sometimes in a way that honestly seems magical, by people I’ve only met once. These are kind angels; people that were willing to help me, and in some cases while living in Africa and traveling the world, actually saved my life. This may just be a story for another blog posting, but I had an emergency appendectomy while living in Madagascar as a Peace Corps Volunteer. The medical officers, doctors, and Malagasy people who just happened to be in the right place at the right time, literally saved my life.

Therefore, it is important for me to recognize that the love and energy I give out to others does not need to be reciprocated by the same people whom I share it with. It may come in a beautiful form that is different from the form we thought it would take, but it is still wonderful, “take your breath away love” and kindness coming our way. It is a challenge to detach from certain expectations and hoped for outcomes with those we love or regularly spend time around; those that we may have offered something from deep inside that was not returned in the way we might wish for. However, we can always take heart and live mindfully and truthfully when we give of ourselves unconditionally while also establishing healthy boundaries with those around us.

How does your ability to both give and to receive show up in your own life? As always, I would love to hear about it!

Speaking of the seemingly paradoxical idea of unconditionally giving as well as healthy boundary setting so that we are honored in our relationships, I want to again offer you a complimentary 60 minute Relationship Breakthrough Strategy session – contact me at create@carolinewyrosdick.com to grab yours!

We will examine how you are currently showing up in your relationships and ways to move forward. We can identify what a healthy balance of giving and receiving would look in your life. I would love to offer you this as my gift to you. Stay warm and joyful!

With Love,

Caroline

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A Simple Tool That Helps When FEAR Seems Bigger Than You

Photo by Caroline Wyrosdick-Webb

Photo by Caroline Wyrosdick-Webb

“I have a little mantra: ‘My fear grows fat on the energy I feed it. And if it grows very big, it probably happens.’ ” -Scilla Elworthy

I have many fears, some of which have manifested and others which never have. Our fear is real. And, our fear has the potential to have catabolic, destructive energy OR it can be an anabolic, creative catalyst for expansion and growth. This often depends on how we choose to manage our fear and our energy.

While pregnant, I had fears about how my son’s birth might go, how having a child might impact relationships in my life, and about transitioning to parenthood. While mothering, I also see all kinds of fear come up…will something happen to my son…or to my ability to care for him? Though we never know for sure what is going to happen, and for this reason, some of our worries seem valid, fear takes us away from the present moment.

Fear can trap us.

Something that helps me when these fears come up is to repeat an affirmation that came to me: “Breathe in energy, breathe out fear”. These powerful words help center me.

When you experience fear, what tools do you have that serve you in working with your fear and transforming its energy?

Working with a life coach can help someone gain the necessary tools for energy management and fear transformation. Contact me at create@carolinewyrosdick.com to schedule a complimentary 60 minute strategy session!

I wish you joy and love!

My best,

Caroline

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Do You Judge Others? + FREE 30 Day Meditation Challenge (Starts Nov. 1st) – Sign-Up!

Art by Kenneth E. Webb

Art by Kenneth E. Webb

“You are all things. Denying, rejecting, judging or hiding from any aspect of your total being creates pain and results in a lack of wholeness.”  -Joy Page

The Truth is that many of us spend time judging both ourselves and others. Sometimes when I find myself starting to judge another person, I take a moment to pause and realize that often what I want to judge someone else for is something I can see that I myself have said or done at some point in life. Judgment feels yucky and can harm our emotional, spiritual, and physical health.

When I find myself wanting to judge someone for something I do not believe I have ever said or done, I think this too serves as a way for me to learn something about myself and my relationships. What causes the tendency to judge? I think it comes from a place within each of us that is wounded in some way – a place that creates filters and half-truths through which we assess ourselves and others.

Self-judgement is a painful experience that can cause us to trust ourselves less. In some ways, our tendency to judge also protects us and keeps us safe from physical harm. The trouble comes when we allow our judgment to interfere with how we engage in our lives. This often happens on a subconscious level, and our judgment can be like a reflex, so we must be vigilant in order to recognize it.

If we come from a place of unconditional love and acceptance, our lives will feel light versus heavy, and we can offer our love and creativity more fully in all aspects of our lives.

The next time you find yourself being judgmental, focus on being an observer of the situation. Observe what is triggering the judgment within…where, specifically, is it coming from? What does it feel like? Over time, observe the patterns you notice in this tendency to judge. When is it most likely to occur? If possible, record your answers to these questions. 

Meditation and visualization are powerful tools to use in an effort to shift away from judgment.

Sign-up for a FREE 30-day Meditation Challenge organized by the amazing Lisa Abernathy of Blue Heron Acupuncture & Apothecary. I provided meditations/visualizations for this challenge. Each day, you will receive health tips, recipes, and a meditation for your day, for 30-days!! It is an awesome opportunity…go sign-up NOW! It starts November 1st. Use the link below to sign-up:

http://www.blueheroncharleston.com/meditation.php

With Love,

Caroline

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What I do when I look around and see a mess…+ Sign-up for a FREE 30 Day Meditation Challenge!

Photo by Caroline Wyrosdick-Webb

Photo by Caroline Wyrosdick-Webb

“Be willing to be uncomfortable. Be comfortable being uncomfortable. It may get tough, but it’s a small price to pay for living a dream.” -Peter McWilliams

When I find myself becoming uncomfortable with a person, situation, or object, I ask myself, what is really going on here? AKA: What do I need to learn? If we take a few deep breaths and ground ourselves in these uncomfortable moments, we can recognize their value. Doing so is certainly challenging. I face the temptation of wanting the discomfort to go away and even wishing it would disappear. From this space, I am seeing the discomfort as a problem or issue to be dealt with and not as a blessing to be grateful for. If I take time to shift my energy towards opening to the discomfort, I discover so many blessings within the discomfort.

For example, I feel uncomfortable sometimes when I look around my home and notice there is a mess or when I want to have a difficult conversation with my spouse or when I need to be away from my son for longer periods of time. When there is a physical mess, and I feel overwhelmed by it (and isn’t overwhelm a state of great discomfort?), I start feeling my energy sinking to a place of blame…how did we let it get like this? That is a catabolic, energy draining feeling state. To shift out of it, I remind myself that our priority these days is our son’s care. Then, I ask myself when today can I set aside at least 20-30 minutes to do housework. Knowing that I can choose my energy and that there will always be a time and a place for everything really helps me shift to a more creative, anabolic space. 

For me, the blessing lies in knowing that dishes will always be there, floors will always need vacuuming (especially with two cats), bills will always need paying, and that there will be time for it ALL eventually. I was blessed with the opportunity to grow both a child and a business, and they are my priority. This blessing, this opportunity, lies deep in the pit of my belly…and it is the chance to experience gratitude for all that IS, the beautiful and the ugly. I feel deep gratitude that I am alive to experience this messy, lovely experience called living!

If you want to learn more about expanding your gratitude, and growing a container of peace and clarity for yourself, sign-up for this FREE 30 Day Meditation Challenge, brought to you by amazing healer and acupuncturist, Lisa Abernathy of Blue Heron Acupuncture & Apothecary in Charleston, SC. Learn more and sign-up here: http://www.blueheroncharleston.com/meditation.php.

Also, I am still offering 15% off of the Energy Leadership Index Assessment which shows you ways you can raise your energy during times of discomfort. It measures your energetic profile and how you show up in relationship with yourself and with others. Contact me for more information!

create@carolinewyrosdick.com

With Love,

Caroline

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